Dear OTM

MY SISTER IS A TRAINER AT A GYM AND SHE IS ALL ABOUT HEALTH AND FITNESS. WHICH IS FINE. BUT WHEN SHE TELLS MY 10YEAR OLD DAUGHTER THAT SHE IS GETTING CHUNKY AND SHOULD SNACK HEALTHIER AND EXERCISE I THINK THAT IS TAKING IT TO FAR. IM CURRENTLY NOT SPEAKING TO MY SISTER BECAUSE OF THIS. SHE WOULDNT STOP TEASING MY DAUGHTER AND I DONT NEED MY DAUGHTER GETTING NEGATIVE FEELINGS OF HERSELF ALREADY. WHEN SHES OLDER AND WANTS TO WORKOUT THEN SHE CAN DO SO. SHE IS A KID AND SO WHAT IF SHES A LITTLE CHUNKY SHES 10 AND CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT LATER. DO YOU AGREE MY SISTER WAS OUT OF LINE?

Dear Kristine,

Yes, she was wrong in the way she did it.
Truth is she was right by saying that it is NOT good if she is a little chunky at 10, childhood weight issues continue into adulthood but telling her that she is chunky is just wrong. Girls today have enough body image issues without hearing it from family.
It would have been better for everyone if your sister (the trainer) asked your daughter to start working out with her at the gym she works out at a few times a week. Tell her you need a partner and include her for 30 minutes a day a few times a week in a set routine of cardio and weights.
Make her feel special, allow here to spend one on one time with someone she loves and help her build a base for exercise.
Teach her about healthy snacking and remind you to only buy what will benefit her not fill her with salt, sugar or fat.
Your daughter is at the perfect age to fall in-love with fitness and enjoy spending one on one time with you or her Aunt at the gym, so take advantage of that. However, never make a child feel unaccepted or self conscience to get them to lose weight.

Good Luck & Huge Muther Hugs,

One Tough Muther

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