How can I go about giving my two year old effective structure? He has some not so nice habits and he’s very hyper. I want to re-train him. I love him dearly but he has a habit of hitting and pointing his figure like he’s ‘telling you off’. I try to get him to sit and watch television, do flash cards or something but he doesn’t seem to interested . Need some help with this.
Two year old’s are learning so quickly and moving at the speed of light so it becomes hard to capture and captivate their thoughts.
The best advice I have is PATIENCE and CONSISTENCY!
You must, must, must, did I say must, be patient and consistent. Young children need structure, routine and limits.
You are 100% right, hitting is completely unacceptable and a time out sitting over and over will seen get this through their head.
If you point your finger at him, you can’t expect him not to point at you, that is a learned behavior and he got it from somewhere so find out where and stop it. Children response best to calm, direct and stern (not screaming) instruct delivered at their level so get down face to face with him and tell him what is and is not acceptable. NO long explanation, lecture or reasoning is required, he is 2 years old and most adults tune you out after so many words.
Be consistent and deliverer the same consequences for the undesired action. It will take a lot from you but eventually the end result will be worth it. There are wonderful sites and blogs of women who have harnessed this beast so “google” help with a 2 year old. Octavia, it takes a village to raise a child and there is no “one size fits all” so read it all and try until it works for your child is my best advice.
I have to tell you Krystal, I am very proud of you for asking and wanting to tame this adorable little director.
Good Luck & Huge Muther Hugs,
One Tough Muther