I have a pretty messed up thing going on that I am sleeping with a man that I can not stand one bit. He’s annoying and conceded, rude & loud but the minute he makes a move it’s all thrown out the window with the attraction I have for him when he seduces me. Unless we are hooking up we are hating on each other. YET I can’t stop the affair. I’ve tried to end it but we always end up sleeping together. I can’t stand this man! What am I doing!

Dear Brenda,

What are you doing?
It sounds like you are acting extremely needy and desperate for attention,any attention and that is bad.
Brenda, what is going on? Where is your self esteem, pride and self love. People can only treat you and use you, the way YOU allow them to and you are allowing this man to do nothing more than that, use you.
Doing what you are doing is damaging to your self worth and destroying any chances of having a real relationship or a future with any other man. Your are nothing more than obsessed with this jerk and obsessions are extremely dangerous. Why would you give someone you can’t stand that power over you and your life?
Brenda here is the facts, NO ONE is going to come and save you, you have to save yourself. If you don’t like where you are in life, you have to move, you are not a tree. Everything you do is based on the choices you make. It’s not your parents fault, your past relationships, your job, the economy, the weather, an argument or your age that is to blame.
You Brenda and only you are responsible for every decision you have made and the choices you continue to make…PERIOD.
Stop this ridiculous weakness and regain your self control and control over your emotions.
Life is short and before you know it you will have wasted your young years on someone who knowingly uses you and enjoys having the power to do so.

Good Luck & Huge Muther Hugs,

One tough Muther

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