I’m 19 almost 20 and attending a local school. I have been living with my parents in the home I grew up in and I told my parents that me and my boyfriend Ray want to get an apartment together. My parents said that If I move out of their home that they will not continue paying for my education. I told my boyfriend this and he said If I can’t stand up to my parents and grow up and get a place with him that he is going to stop being my boyfriend. I don’t want to miss a chance to get a place with my boyfriend and loose him. What would be smart. I probably could find a job and pay my way to school I think, if I move in with Ray. How could my parents put me in this situation!


Dear Cate,

Your are half right how can the put you in this situation however you don’t mention that your boyfriend is also serving up ultimatums.
Holy cow people get a grip.
Due to your parents strong stand it appears to me that they don’t like the boyfriend and it is pretty obvious that the boyfriend isn’t crazy about the parents and you my dear are stuck in the middle.
Cate you are an adult do what you want but with both eyes open. If you want to move out move, but expect to work for to pay for school.
As far as the “boyfriend” I see why the parents may not like him, how manipulating is he? If you don’t stand up to your parents and move out her is dumping you, wow are you kidding. That guy sounds like a real jerk.
So I understand let me break it down, he will dump you if YOU an adult, don’t do what he wants you to do? Does that throw up a red flag to you? He sounds controlling, manipulating and demanding how old is this guy?
Cate, in my opinion stay at your parents, continue with school, do well and if said “boyfriend” really cares for you he will stick around. If he doesn’t stick around, you will have a roof over your head, an education which will be a good start with your own life without without being given ultimatums. There a ton of guys out there and I am sure you will find one who wants to be your boyfriend no matter where your living.

Good Luck & Huge Muther Hugs,

One Tough Muther

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