My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and we have such a great relationship. We have been talking about taking the next step and living together but there is a major problem: he won’t move out of his mom’a house, he wants me to move in!! We are 24 and 25 years old and he doesn’t understand why I wouldn’t want “free dinners every night” and a “free, fully furnished home”! He has such an attachment to his mom and living at home that it is starting to put a major strain on me. How do I get him to cut the cord? Help!
Warning, Warning, Warning.
Any 25 year old guy that values “FREE” Mama’s cooking and the ease of a “FREE fully furnished house” over moving your relationship as a couple to the next level has, WARNING written all over it. Sorry girlfriend, but this 25 year old Mama’s boy is definitely not mature enough or ready to take the any steps forward.
Kara, pay very close attention to this very important behavior it is, a HUGE RED FLAG. If your boyfriend can’t cut the cord at 25 years old and commit to you and your future as a couple, there is a bigger problem than his “free is for me” attitude.
Kara, think about how hard it is to change yourself, so if you think your going change him or get him to cut the cord after 25 years, I’d think again. Mommy’s got this one. Take your time and realize right now that, Mommy’s boy who wants to be catered too and taken care of. I’m afraid the signs are all there and pointing out that your next step with Junior may be a huge stumbling block.
Luck & Huge Muther Hugs,
One Tough Muther