Dear one tough muther,
I have been in a relationship for a total of two and a half years. The first seven months we lived locally to each other but the rest of our relationship was completely long distance. I had to leave for a job opportunity in Georgia while he stayed in philly. We skyped, face timed called and visited but very very rarely visited. If I’m extremely Specific we only physically seen each other two times since the move. 2 months ago though he made the move to Atlanta to come live with me. He transferred his job to a Business in Atlanta and all looked good. I HATE to say it but living together has literally been hell. We fight so often, I am finding myself disgusted with him and he openly admitted feeling the same towards me. We were so in love and now it doesn’t seem to be panning out as we had hoped but we made these big decisions on the move, job and so on. We both feel as though we are stuck now. He is talking of getting his own place in the Atlanta area and then possibly moving back to philly. How can I keep my man? There has to be relationship tips, I don’t feel like going back in the dating field and I’m sure I love him.
GIVE IT TIME…wow, your guys are ready to jump ship so soon. How much can you love the guy if you can’t work out the growing pains. And what is it you “fight” about so often? I have something for you to think about, do you really love this guy or do you love the idea of being in a relationship? I am a firm believer in you don’t really know someone until you live with them. 2 1/2 years of skype isn’t the day to day sharing in each others lives that make up a relationship.
My advice, give it time, talk it through (on skype if you have to) and give this your best effort. If it smooths out great, if it doesn’t it wasn’t meant to be, just don’t throw in the towel so soon.
Good luck & Huge Muther Hugs,
One Tough Muther