I just got into and heavy debate with someone about a mans role in the home with the children. I argued that I feel no matter how hard the mans day was when he comes home to his wife and children, that he should help out caring for them in the home as well. I am a woman who is married to a man who does not help out caring for the children at home. Feeding them, bathing, getting the kids in bed ect ect ect ect ect…is all on my shoulders. My husband will come home and relax the entire rest of his day not doing a damn thing but relaxing on the couch. It is very over whelming and my argument was that the husband helped bring the children into this world, he is the father so he can not just NOT help at all and just check out when he gets home. The person arguing me said that children duties come naturally to the mother and that it is the mothers job only. Who is right?

Dear April,

Is your friend from the 1950’s and is her name June Clever?
Are you kidding me, mothering and fathering is called parenting and it should be 50/50.
There is absolutely NO reason except for illness maybe, that when both parents are home, both parents perform an equal role in their children’s upbringing. In fact here’s one that will rock you, I will go as far as to say that even in is the case of a stay at home mother, possibly the toughest job on earth, when both parents are at home, both parents, should parent.
In today’s world where both the mother and father need to bring home the bacon, there is no room for a ham. Everybody must chip in and pull their weight especially after a long day. Team work certainky helps things run faster and smoother.

So in my opinion, you are right.

Good Luck & Huge Muther Hugs,

One Tough Muther

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