Dear One Tough Mother,

This weekend is Mother’s Day and my Mother is gone. She passed 4 years ago and we have no children, we have dogs.
My husband’s Mother lives about 1/2 hour from us and she is horrible.
She is demeaning, rude, demanding and cruel to my husband and I both.
Last year was awful because she wanted to go out to a restaurant, on the busiest day of the year and complained the entire time about the wait, the food, the staff and the cost.
Well, guess what she wants to this year?
a do over….ugh.
I don’t want to go through this again, but my husband insists because she is 81 and not in great health.
Should I go? it was completely embarrassing last year and the year before for that matter.
Do you have any suggestions?



Dear Beth,

I’m sure, no I’m positive, you’re going to hate what I have to say but here it goes, Just Do It, GO!

I mean, if your husband really wants to take his 81 year old Mother out for a Mother’s Day meal, you really should support him. He obviously knows how crabby she is, he was there for the last few fun-filled events and probably doesn’t want to do it either, but you really have to give the guy a break. The only other two options I can suggest would be:

#1. You both make her a lovely dinner at your house. As you whisk her away in the car, she will think she is going to a restaurant, but surprise, you pull up to your house and exclaim to her, SHE WAS RIGHT last year. The restaurants are too crowded, the wait is too long, the food and the staff suck and cost is outrageous. So your husband and you decided instead of putting her through that scenario again, to treat her to her favorite delicious home cooked meal, complete with flowers of course, in the comfort of your home. What could be more special or loving? Maybe option #2.

#2 Take her to a fast food drive through and say this is as good as it gets.

Either way, to answer your question Beth, yes I think you should go. You should go for your husbands sake and peace of mind. It’s once a year and he will feel much better about it if you are there.

Huge Muther Hugs,

One Tough Muther

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