I was with a man for five years, we have a three year old and I’m pregnant with our second. Last night he told me I didn’t make him happy and the arguing we do is making him miserable. He said he wants to end this. I don’t understand. He just kept saying he didn’t know when I asked him why, and he kept saying I’m sorry. I need some help to get through this..
I am so sorry however it’s time that the two of you have an honest conversation.
What is all the arguing about and why? He wants to end what, the arguing or the relationship.
Liz, it sounds to me like it is time to sit down and talk through your differences. Remember there are other, more important lives involved here, your 3 year old and your unborn child’s. His reluctance to discuss anything when asked (and I hope you are asking calmly) is selfish and childish. How can you work toward a resolution or understanding in your relationship if you don’t know what is making either of you unhappy.
Your children DO NOT deserve to be raised in an unstable relationship. You both are responsible for what is happening now and what will happen in the future, so you both need to sit down and work out a solution. Real relationships take work and a lot of it. When things aren’t going right you just don’t walk, especially when other lives depend on you.
So stop blaming one another and arguing. It’s time to come to terms with what is going on and then move forward either together or separately. However Liz do remember, your children did not ask to be born and you both have a life long responsibility to them and what is best for them.
Huge Muther Hugs,
One Tough Muther