One tough Muther,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for three months. He is great, very attentive, caring, loving and I am really happy with him. My friends have been giving me such a hard time because my boyfriend doesn’t really roll with our group. He beats to his own drum- Literally/marching band . He is so smart and cautious. He is nothing like any other of the “Jock” types i’ve dated. I always feel like the center of his world and i am drawn to him and he is so handsome to me. But i can’t help but feel shame when my friends are around, I feel like i push him away during school out of shame of being seen with him. Why can’t i just block out what other people are saying and focus on my feelings for him. Ugh , I don’t know how to change! I don’t want to loose him.
Ugh, I am sorry. It so sucks when your friends make you feel like you or someone you really care about is a loser. They make everything so uncomfortable and awkward.
So you know what I say to that Sam, they aren’t really your friends.
True friends don’t berate you for liking someone they don’t identify with because he is not in their circle. Does your boyfriend make you feel like a weirdo for liking those “friends”? Sam, in life you have to learn to stand up for what you truly want even if it means you stand alone.
I say you see who your real friends are. Simply say, “this is a guy I really like and he is very good to me. You are my friends so you should be happy that I am happy and appreciate the way he treats me like a princess. He may not be the kind of person you are use to rolling with but if you are my friends you will accept him for who he is, be kind to him and try to get to know him better. You are my friends and you all should be willing to do as I ask out of respect for our years of friendship. If you don’t then I guess we were never really friends”.
Learn now Sam to follow the path that you and only you choose. I know it is hard sometimes to stand out in a crowd but it is better to walk your walk then crawl with a crowd.
Good luck Sam, let me know how it goes. I really think you are a wonderful and mature young lady for seeking a solution.
Huge Muther Hugs,
One Tough Muther