I am sorry OTM to write to you about this but I think I might have a sex addiction. I am constantly seeking attention from men through sexual encounters. I have hooked up with many men i’ve met online. Some are married some are not but it doesn’t bother me either way. I love the attention. When a new man messages me it brings me so much joy that I feel butterflies, and I can not wait to meet this man. Once I meet the man It is usually just a sexual relationship. I probably don’t have an addiction but my sister is concerned and says she thinks I need help blah blah blah. I told her that they don’t have help for a made up thing BUT do think there is any help for such an addiction if I were to have one ?

Dear Abigail,

Please don’t be sorry for writing me with your question, that is why I am here, to help.
Yes, there is definitely help for sex addiction but Honey I am not sure that is what the problem is.
You never once in your letter mention how you feel you need sex, love sex or are consumed by thoughts of sex but you do say, “I am constantly seeking attention from men through sexual encounters.” Seeking ATTENTION from men, through sexual encounters and an addiction to sex does not mean the same thing to me.
Abigail, I don’t know how old you are or where you live but you are playing a very, very dangerous game of Russian Roulette. Every time you meet one of these men on the internet, you put your life in their hands and take the aweful chance that it may be your last. You are headed down a road that can and probably will end in a very, very tragic way. The thought of all the diseases you are exposing yourself to is nothing compared to the very realistic possibility of being abducted, abused, beaten, enslaved, tortured, killed or all of those horrific events at once.
Abigail, you must stop this dangerous game immediately. There is help out there and I’d be happy to point you in the right direction if I knew what state you where in. Here is a link to a government site for mental health- http://www.mentalhealth.gov/ you will find different links on that site such as OK2TALK, http://www.jedfoundation.org/ and more, that can point you in the right direction to getting help.
Abigail, please let me help you. And if not me, then your sister or mother or someone who you trust. Abigail, you must try desperately to save yourself and get help. Your sister is right, you need help. You need help to get to the bottom of your obsessive need for attention before it kills you.

I hope to hear from you again very soon telling me more about where you are and how old you are. However, until I do please think about everything I’ve said and stay away from strange men.

Huge Muther Hugs,

One Tough Muther

Dear Abigail,

I have contacted a colleague of mine who offered to help you-
Her contact information is:

Veronica Monet, ACS, CAM

Please contact her she would like to help you.



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