Dear OTM,

My husband has hated his job since January when he started. He’s walked out on it before but got this job back. But Over the weekend he got in a argument with his boss and my husband decided to leave work and be done. He doesn’t plan on going back, plus they aren’t calling him asking him to come back this time. Problem is he doesn’t have a job in place of it and this job was hard enough to come by. I am anxious , I’ve had panic attacks every night since he’s done this. Him though ? He acts like he’s on vacation, loughing watching tv when he’s home. He should be out there searching for a new job, right? Considering we have children. He’s acting not concerned at all. Yes he recieved a few side jobs the past two dAys but nothing is scheduled for the week. It’s not a full time job. I make money but not enough for the family or to live on. Now that the kids are back in school I’m in the process of starting a new job in the schools district but still it’s not enough for the family. Here’s what ticked me. The other day my husband told me in a authorizing tone to start looking for a well paying job. Then he said he will find something around me. My jaw about dropped to the floor. He f*ckin left his job. Not me. How dare he! I plan on taking my job that I have planned , being it works with my kids schedule no matter what he says. I don’t know if I’m venting to you one tough muther or asking why the hell he’s acting like this, or what you think I should do. This is not the first time he’s done this and I am feeling that I should not depend on him anymore. But I should depend on me… I’m so stressed and frankly I’m over this childish thoughtless behavior. That’s not a man.

Dear Worried Wife,

You are 100% correct, this is unacceptable behavior for a man with a wife and children. Jobs are very hard to find and living expenses keep going up so what is he thinking.
Ok, wait…let me regroup. Was he being treated unfairly, harassed, demeaned in anyway, asked to to do something he couldn’t physically or mentally handle, why did he leave his job…again?
What started me off was the fact that your having anxiety attacks and he is lounging around watching TV. Plus you said this is his second go around with the behavior.

Worried wife, I see the beginning of a pattern here and frankly it worries me so I can’t imagine what it does to you.
I am afraid it is time that you start to rely on yourself. You should move forward with your planned job and do what you can to advance. I worked many, many hours when I was solely raising the kids and since he is home he can pitch in and watch them as well as do the other chores house wives are stuck doing. You must learn not to except nothing less from him than 100% cooperation on the home front. If that doesn’t happen then he needs to get out and get looking.

He has a responsibility to his family, a responsibility he agreed to when you married and had children. If he doesn’t get that maybe he should get moving because there are no free rides in life, you get out of life, what you put into it.

Good Luck & Huge Muther Hugs,

One Tough Muther

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