Dear OTM,

A neighbor of mine has a 2 year son. To be exact he is 2 years and three months. He doesn’t talk, he grunts and makes noises and points at what he wants. And My neighbor and her husband will sit there and guess at what he is trying to say. Well my neighbor noticed that my niece is the same age as their son and that she talks. So they asked me why do I think that is? Why do I think that their son doesn’t talk.Well i answered with i’m not sure but all kids are different. What I really wanted to say was Stop allowing him to grunt and make noises and point. They should make him SAY what he wants or tell him what it is if he doesn’t know but then expect him to say it after that. Every time I say this in my head it sounds rude and I don’t want to be rude.I know as a parent myself sometimes when someone else gives you advice on YOUR kids you can easily get offended. So should I just stick with what I said and make them find their way on their own or say what I think no matter how rude it may sound?

Dear Sarah,

You said exactly what I would have said at that moment. However the next time I saw your neighbor I would follow it up with, “hey I was talking to my sister-in-law and she said when Suzy (?) hit 18 months they started helping her talk and tell them what she wanted. They would say the words and have her try to repeat the word after them and praise her by clapping and saying good girl when she tried. Once they did that a few times, Suzy’s speech just took off”. Sarah, your neighbor asked you WHY your niece speaks and her son doesn’t, so she has questions and now you can tell her.

Good Luck & Huge Muther Hugs,


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