I called a friend today. We’ve been friends for 15 years. Her response when I called was why haven’t I come over in 5 months and why haven’t I called. I became annoyed because last I checked the phone works both ways. She said that she’s busy with the kids so I should call. Funny thing, I also have kids & a job & live 45 minutes from her .. I don’t understand why it’s only up to me to do it all. Am I being over dramatic ??

Dear Norma,

No, I don’t think you are being over dramatic but I do think your friend is being a bit one sided. I am sure she didn’t mean anything by it, maybe she was having a rough day, however that doesn’t give her the right to read you the riot act. I do understand your upset with her comments.
Norma, the sad truth is people get so caught up in their own lives with their family, their jobs and the day to day drama of living, they just lose track or time. Believe me when I say, we all are guilty of forgetting to call someone, stop by to check on someone or find even a minute to reach out. I have wonderful dear friends I haven’t talked to in months because of conflicting schedules and LIFE. However, when we do connect it is just as though we have been talking everyday.
Norma, don’t be too hard on your friend for her insensitive comments and next time before you hang up or go your separate ways say “tag your it, call me when you can” and hopefully that will remind her that she should reach out as well.

Good Luck & Huge Muther Hugs,

One Tough Muther

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