This is more of a statement not a question. A few months back my son had a friend over. This friends mother came along to stay while the kids played. My first impression of her was poor judgement . She came dressed in sweat pants and a t-shirt with her hair pulled back. In my head I thought, oh how sloppy of her. The whole time she was over I couldnt get over how she came to my home for the first time dressed like she was hanging at her own home, even though she was very very friendly. The whole time I thought her home must be messy, and I thought welp another parent I can’t be friends with. Fast forward to now. She invited the kids to vacation bible school at her church this week. I haven’t seen her since that one time but thought, ok, it’s something for the kids to do. I took my kids to the church for vbs and i saw her as soon as i walked in and she was very put together, with her hair done and dressed pretty. She came up to me and gave me the biggest hug and said that she is so happy that we came. I couldn’t help but kick myself. I judged this woman completely on how she was dressed and ignored her personality. She is a mom who i’m sure doesn’t have time or have to be put together everyday..So if you are a mom who see’s another mother maybe dressed a little messy don’t judge her. Get to know her. Raising kids is a hard time of our lives and we are not perfect– I need to take this advice
do you agree?

Dear Mary,

I totally agree, first impressions unfortunately may stick. Let’s be honest, everyone of us have a bad day now and again. A day when well, we just can’t seem to pull it together. I know I have had an occasion bad night with a sick baby or child, ran to the store for something needed and of course encountered someone I knew, ugh.
Just keep your wonderful example in mind next time you meet someone and also remember that judging others is very unfair to them and to ourselves because we may be missing out on someone wonderful.
Remember you can’t always judge a book by it’s cover it’s what inside that counts.

Thank you for writing to remind us all.

Huge Muther Hugs,

One Tough Muther

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