I recently came across a post on 10 things I want to tell my daughter. I came to number 4 which said – Make a list of qualities she should look for in a man. It was like a light bulb went off. Oh what a GREAT idea. My daughter is 10 now and I’m anxious to make a list for her, but she is 10. When would it be a right age to give my daughter a list like this. I’m very concerned for her future. I want her relationships to be better than mine have been.

Dear Pam,

What a wonderful idea! It is so important that we talk, not preach to our daughters. We must communicate what we have learned first hand, through our life experiences. Most of the time, life lessons are the hardest lessons we learn. Talking to our daughters may help them make a better decision if they are faced with a similar incident. It gives our girls knowledge to draw from and helps guide them when they are unsure. I have always loved the saying “Here’s to strong women, may we know them, may we be them, may we raise them.”
So in my opinion I think an appropriate age would be, 14 years old. I chose 14 years old because at that age most girls are entering high school and they are faced with many, many new life experiences and decisions.
Pam, I feel you are a wonderful Mother and I think the list idea it fantastic. Just remember that even if they act as though they are not listening or they don’t care, they hear you and they will file the information away and draw from it when it is needed.

Hugs,

One Tough Muther

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