A friend of mine is having a hard time. She lost both her parents in a matter of 6 months. She often breaks down crying while talking about things, or talking about her fathers death . She was by his side while he passed. When she breaks down I don’t know what to say anymore. I tend to look away when she gets upset or say aww I know, or that’s hard I know. I’m lost for words.

Dear Michie,

You my friend are not alone, I have a very difficult time finding words when someone breaks a part as well. Not long ago my dear friend just lost her sister, it was unexpected and she was shocked. As she broke down all I could do was hug her and tell her how sorry I was, which felt so inadequate. She understandably broke down several times after which made me also feel like I should have had more to say.
Then Michie, I thought back to when someone I loved died and how happy I was just to have someone to lean on and listen. I just wanted to pour my heart out and spill all the sadness. So in the end Michie I think it may be the listening and being the shoulder that is there to lean on, that are enough. Words are wonderful but there are really no words that will block or stop the pain of a loss so don’t drive yourself crazy over this.
My thoughts, let her talk and talk and talk, let her spill her pain and a hug or a hand on her shoulder may be all she really needs.

My condolences and Huge Muther Hugs,

One tough muther

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