How do I get on with life let go date again and pur my child in her place
I am a firm believer that “people can only talk to you the way you allow them to talk to you and treat you the way you allow them to treat you.” She is a child, your child, so YOU set the rules.
You say your daughter is 12 yrs old, that is old enough to respect your request for a bit of Mother time and independence. Sit her down and tell her you are going to be dating and that she expected to be polite and respectful to who ever she comes in contact with, nothing less. Assure her that she is still loved and that she will always be most important person in your life, however it is important for adults to spend time with other adults. Then follow through, Anita you are the parent.
As a single Muther of 4 children it was hard dating but it was not impossible. You need time to be a woman not only a mother which will help you be happier all around. Your daughter is 12 years old and does not have to completely understand anything except that you love her and always will. Giving her power over you, your life and who you spend time with is absolutely outrageous. Be consistent and firm and don’t allow any room for drama.
Remember, being a happy woman will make you a happier Mother and if you are firm and consistent she will eventually get it.
Good Luck & Huge Muther Hugs,
One Tough Muther